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Through the Looking Glass


The United States Census Bureau recorded the population number at 316.1 million as of 2013. Of more than 2.3 million veterans of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars, approximately 460,000, (20 percent), have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Findings from the National Vietnam Veterans’ Readjustment Study confirms one out of every five is the astonishing prevalence of PTSD in said military officials and troops.

Experiencing trauma doesn’t automatically give someone PTSD. In fact, more than half of the nation’s population will experience trauma at some point. Of the entirety of the US population, about seven to eight percent have or will have PTSD at some point in their lives, according to the National Center for PTSD.

Mass media and the consistent coverage of PTSD increased awareness in recent years, specifically with regards to war veterans. It is true, as found in the National Center for PTSD, that intentional traumas, including combat, are more likely to cause this disorder; however, it is imperative to remember the infinite intentional trauma scenarios, (i.e. kidnapping, domestic violence, childhood abuse, etc.), unrelated to war veterans in order to prevent further stigmatization of said population and to stop overlooking the individuals that make up more than 93% of the population of persons with PTSD.


The first thing I ever remember was the jar of translucent, red marbles. Each piece of glass had an intricate shape, and clouds passing in the sky, watching them kept my undivided attention. My mom used this fascination as an opportunity to see just how much she could teach her tiny toddler about numbers and mathematics.

The marbles, used as a visual aid, each represented one of my friends, as my mom explained. After a few problems of addition and subtraction, I remember the moment I understood what my mother meant by “two times two.” In that sitting, the hunch that I was different from most children my age was confirmed by my mother’s face; it contorted with complete astonishment as I grasped the concept of multiplication and division at the ridiculous age of two.

I attended school a year early, skipped second grade, participated in the gifted programs, yet I still wasn’t being challenged enough as a child. As I neared age 10 in late 2001, already overwhelmed by my parents’ recent divorce, the immense boredom from lack of stimulation became too much to take any longer.


My parents decided to find a school that would better accommodate my needs for my fifth grade year of elementary school. After a series of academic testing sessions, I was accepted to attend a private school designed specifically to educate individuals who are either gifted learners, or are simply unable to learn in a traditional classroom setting.

Accelerated Schools, located in Olathe, Kan., included grades four through nine in the same classroom. One of the students who rode the same bus as myself was named Tyler, and even though I was barely in the double digits, my age didn’t stop his 14-year-old mind from creating a delusion of a relationship between us. This delusion would start with vulgar harassment, and unfortunately resulted in my rape as an innocent child, as well as the diagnosis of PTSD more than four years later.


Although I happen to be one of the lucky 50 percent of the individuals who have this disorder to actually be diagnosed with it, I treated the symptoms the only way I knew how for a very long time–by masking them with medicine. During the past five years, I lost the presence of myself as an individual as prescription drugs and the side effects they had on my behavior replaced my identity one part at a a time.

It was a little more than a year ago when I came to the realization I needed to decide whether to allow this disability to take complete control over my existence, or to take back the reins on my own life. On December 1st, 2013, I quit smoking cigarettes, lost 40 lbs. by February 1st, 2014, trained my dog, Tootsie, last spring to be my service animal, and even moved into an apartment without an roommate for the first time.

The steps I took before Fall semester of this school year were undoubtedly positive; however, PTSD itself is not treated with medication, only the symptoms it causes are. Because of this, when the condition is left untreated, it greatly worsens over time. I felt my self as a whole slip through my fingers as I hit rock bottom early in August of this year. It took me until the beginning of October to see beyond my pride and into the hypocrisy of my behavior versus my beliefs.


I’ve represented myself as an advocacy journalist throughout college and the two years and counting that I’ve had this website because I truly do love to tell the public informative stories that give something back to help others and the community overall. It was the moment I thought about my audience that I realized how phony I was being, not only to myself, but to every individual I claim to represent on this blog.

With my career, credibility, and conscience all hanging in the balance, I decided to make a change for the better, seek improvement through self-exposure treatment to the things I have been avoiding for so many years, and to document the struggle along my path to happiness for all friends, family, acquaintances and audiences to see. Additionally, I made the difficult decision to withdraw from almost all of my courses for the semester in order to fully dedicate myself to the healing process.


Since I began progressing through treatment a little over two months ago, I’ve lowered my prescription medication dosages greatly, am returning to school next semester with about 15 credit hours left to graduate and have honestly accomplished improvements more vast than I could ever have imagined. However, the amount of work and struggle it took along the way were just as frequent.

Exposing myself to situations I would normally avoid is the most successful, long-term treatment, but in most all cases causes symptoms like flashbacks and anxiety attacks to become more likely and more extreme. Other than the uncomfortable symptoms that intensified from exposure treatment, the reduction of my medication, namely Xanax, had adverse physical consequences I can only be thankful didn’t hurt me.

Whilst lowering my prescription of the highly addictive, controlled substance called Xanax, I experienced withdrawal from my body’s built-up dependence to the drug, and actually went into convulsions whilst experiencing a seizure less than a month ago. Thankfully my boyfriend, Joel, was around at the time; it goes without saying that incident scared the hell out of the both of us.


The challenges I’ve faced were mental, emotional and physical… and they are by no means over. I may never be completely free of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, but what’s important is the constant effort I make to become a healthier, happier and more helpful person.

Many people believe that we never truly stop growing as individuals. This milestone in my life’s journey taught me it is, in fact, true that we never stop growing if we try, but it’s also true that if we stop trying, we never grow.

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Letter to Kendall Jones from Conservative KU Journalist

 IMPORTANT NOTE: I have nothing against the hunting of animals as long it is legal. I support the Second Amendment. I am a proud Republican and advocacy journalist. This letter, and any other related, future information, serves to expose corruption surrounding and/or within non-profit organization(s).

(This is a well-supported presentation of my outlook on Texan student Kendall Jones’ actions. Will she respond? Or will she continue to ignore me and try to get this taken off of Facebook? I would hope the former, but my mind tells me the latter will probably occur.)

Dearest Kendall,

I don’t understand why you blocked me, but I would like to apologize. I understand I was a bit harsh, so I’d like to start over because I really would like to see your perspective and, as a journalism student, I’d like you to see mine as well. I hope that’s not asking too much from you.So, you recently posted 10 very valid reasons for and examples of conservation. The act of conservation hunting HAS DEFINITELY helped a lot of species to thrive….but the keywords here are: IN. NORTH. AMERICA! In the same post you also mentioned the specific animals in which conservation hunting has helped including: ducks, turkeys, pronghorns, elk and  whitetails.

Your argument for conservation hunting is completely infallible and correct… for those species in that continent. However, using statistics from North American animal conservation hunting and it’s success as a correlation between African endangered animal conservation hunting is one of the oldest and most common fallacies of rhetoric in existence. Deriving correlation from causation is not only statistically inaccurate, but, I’m sorry to say, it also shows a lack of credibility on your behalf.


As you seem to have the facts down about North American conservation hunting, allow me to enlighten you about the facts of legal and moral conservation hunting in Africa. First of all, the United States Fish and Wildlife Service’s (FWS) announced in April that the import of elephants from both Tanzania and Zimbabwe will be suspended for the remainder of 2014. The decision was propelled by the fact that in these two countries, according to FWS, “additional killing of elephants…even if legal, is not sustainable.” THUS, your elephant trophies of conservation were actually adding to the endangerment of the species. Big, “Oops!” Huh?Moreover, you’re claiming to support a cause, and you, (or your father), rather, paid of dollars to help that cause. Well, let’s just see about how much money your dad invested in your selfless act to spread awareness, and what exactly it was you had to pay for, shall we?

We all know your favorite spot to hunt is Zimbabwe, as your father introduced you to the beauty of its plains at the sprite age of nine. African Sky Hunting, affiliated with Dallas, TX, (so I’m sure you’re familiar), offers all sorts of all-inclusive packages for hunts just like the ones you go on!

According to said well-known hunting operator in Zimbabwe, a 21-day lion, elephant & buffalo hunt costs $1,100 a day per person. A total upwards of $80,000. BUT that’s not including the price you pay for all of your fuzzy trophies! For each leopard, $15,000. Each lion, $22,000. Each elephant, $35,000. Etc. Etc. Etc.

Not including equipment, air fare, travel fare, transportation of trophy fees, and your ungodly amounts of bronzer, that’s a bit under $200,000.

Now, I understand that as a conservation hunter you are obligated to pay to hunt, and a portion of said payment goes to helping your cause. You recently posted about the lack of the “trickle-down effect” of money from national to local non-profit organizations…

If you support the idea that national non-profits should give back more locally, then how do you justify less than 1% of the money conservation hunters pay to kill these animals actually going to said cause? You simply cannot justify this because the two ideas completely contradict one another.

So, if your previous statements are truthful, then you undoubtedly know that it would make a more significant impact and help more animals if you directly donated money instead of hoping that one cent for every dollar spent will hopefully go to the cause you claim to believe in.

A donation of $200,000 directly to the cause would have made much more of an impact on this platform you “care so much” about. How many trips have you taken like this before? How many has your father taken? I guarantee the total cost of the animal deaths from all of the hunts combined is at least one million. But even with the $200,000, you could have actually made a long-term, positive change in the world for a species.

As I mentioned, (before you decided to block me for no reason), I am both a journalism student and the owner/manager of a website SPECIFICALLY dedicated to providing our community with news and information about non-profit organizations and advocacy in general.

For over two years now I have put my heart and soul into said website and into the overall spreading of non-profit awareness. I absolutely refuse to back down on this issue and your idiotic promotion of it. What’s more, I will not stop until a voice is heard for these animals who couldn’t speak for themselves.

Kendall Jones, I refuse to allow your success to be gained through exploitation of this cause, or any other for that matter.

Advocacy and awareness are vital to the future of our beautiful world. Manipulating causes for your own pleasure DOES NOT fall under the umbrella of advocacy or awareness. As a true proponent of this and other causes, and as a journalist, it is my ethical responsibility to inform the community of events and their surrounding facts.

I will not stop spreading awareness about yourself and your anti-advocacy actions until you stop feeding the flame for your infamy and your hopes for a stupid reality show.

I’d like to think that your father’s beliefs have simply been engrained in you deeply from a young age, but another part of me thinks that you truly know what you’re doing is wrong… But, with repetition of manipulated statistical facts, I’m sure you can sleep better at night.

I would truly enjoy a response from you, although I’m sure your publicist (ha!) had you block me BECAUSE I am a journalist. Specifically, an advocacy journalist. Your exploitation of organizations represents the non-profit corruption I fight to eliminate every, single day.
I may not be on Fox News or NBC. Hell, I still have a year before I graduate from the William Allen White School of Journalism at KU. But, that is the very reason I will not stop pursuing your response. I’m not any more educated, accredited or qualified than you are, Kendall. There’s less than two years between us. If you’ve been looking for a fair match in the media to defend your cause and respond to all of the backlash: you’ve found it.

I hope to hear from you soon. Until we speak again, happy shooting!

Be the change you wish to see in the world,


Terran Rae Smith

 IMPORTANT NOTE: I have nothing against the hunting of animals as long it is legal. I support the Second Amendment. I am a proud Republican and advocacy journalist. This letter, and any other related, future information, serves to expose corruption surrounding and/or within non-profit organization(s).


Non-profits and the trickle-down effect

Where are your donations really going?

We’ve all seen the Sarah McLachlan commercial for ASPCA with B-roll of helpless and homeless animals as her tear-jerking song, “In the arms of an angel,” plays in the background. I’ve personally seen grown men cry from this commercial, and it is notoriously known by anyone who watches television. The point here is–the advertisement works. It appeals to the audiences’ emotions and tears so hard at their heart strings, they want to give their money to the Humane Society of the United States.

Of course no one wants to see animals in pain and suffering, which makes the strong reaction to the commercial very sensible. But at what emotional cost will it take for the HSUS to reach their goal? The HSUS annual report of 2007 reported, “$120 million in revenue, including $5.4 million just from online donors.” This emotional solicitation is undoubtedly succeeding for the organization; however, the money donated to this national organization does not necessarily go where the donor may have intended.

HSUS does initiate puppy mill rescues; however, they profit in multiple ways from the process, and the puppies are taken to local shelters. HSUS benefits from ceasing puppy mills through publicity, which leads to donations. Not only is the organization simply moving helpless animals to local shelters, but they are also gaining donations in doing so. It is a harsh reality, but without this media coverage and consequential funding, HSUS wouldn’t be the organization, financially or publicly, it is today.

There is good and bad in these facts about HSUS. In large events such as hurricane Katrina, HSUS had the funds to help out significantly with the natural disaster that shook the lives of so many in New Orleans. In organizing this help; however, HSUS profited greatly from the mass amount of publicity. In the end, it’s positive that HSUS has the funding to help out in times of struggle, but it is definitely negative that the organization takes advantage of disaster situations to increase profit.

On top of the shady, to say the least, lobbying and campaigning HSUS funds, it is a common misunderstanding that there is a certain percentage of donations to the HSUS that trickle down to local shelters. However, local animal shelters see no profit or resources of any kind from the national organization. Once again, HSUS takes advantage of economic opportunity and allows the confusion to continue by failing to mention this bit of information to the audience. A strong economic tactic, certainly, but obviously not something one would anticipate from a non-profit organization.

The overall point here is not that HSUS is evil; it is simply a non-profit organization with a successful, profit-driven mentality. What’s important to understand is where your money is going when you donate to non-profit organizations. In all likelihood–donating five dollars to a local animal shelter would make a much bigger difference than donating to HSUS or another national organization.


Mary Metz’s Mayhem of Morals and Media

Mary Metz

Mary Metz, 61, is a retired CPA who now lends her accounting services to the local non-profit called The Willow Domestic Violence Center. Along with working in the administration office as a volunteer accountant, Mary also shares her experiences with training volunteers during Survivor Story education sessions. For the first 18 years of Mary’s adult life, she fell victim to the cycle of abuse, (view graphic at bottom for further information), after marrying her high school sweetheart.

Mary’s situation only grew in complexity when her son, Roy, came into the picture three years into her increasingly abusive marriage. Fueled by his strong addiction to cocaine and a relentless urge to maintain a constant sense of control over his wife, Mary and her son were victim to physical, emotional and numerous other forms of abuse.

Although the struggle to escape seemed endless, Mary found her way out of the torment in 1989, and her drug dealing ex husband was imprisoned for his involvement with cocaine. He later died of esophageal cancer while incarcerated. The cancer was caused by his extensive drug abuse.

The same year she divorced she moved to Lawrence. After a long road to recovery and empowerment, Metz remarried in 2006, began to find her identity again and, in 2011, decided to use her negative experiences for the betterment of other women in similar situations.

Mary Metz had been leading the Survivor Story training sessions for new volunteers at the shelter since summer of 2011. Sharing her powerful story of survival with others helped Mary to heal and help others at the same time. When Becca Burns, The Willow’s Director of Volunteer Services, approached Mary about sharing her story on-camera with local journalist Sara Patterson from Channel 6 News; however, her feelings about reliving the situation became bittersweet.

Becca Burns and The Willow Management Team

As the volunteer coordinator, Becca Burn’s responsibilities at The Willow are to recruit, retain and recognize volunteer and intern advocates. She is the main supervisor and trainer for new advocates of the shelter. Becca began working at The Willow in 2011, and met Mary in her first advocate training class.

They built a relationship in and out of meetings, had general discussions about the dynamics of power and control in domestic violence and conversed about how training connected Mary with her own experience.

As media involvement is not solicited by The Willow, media relations often come into contact with Becca when first proposing coverage. All media relations at The Willow need to be approved by Joan Schultz, the executive director, before any further action can be taken.

After Sara approached Becca, the volunteer coordinator immediately contacted Joan and the rest of the agency’s management team. This team is comprised of the Willow’s Executive director, director of survivor services, director of community engagement, and Becca as the director of volunteer services.

At the following team meeting, the members discussed the potential role the journalist would play at the Willow, the training (if any) the journalist had, Mary’s interest in pursuing this coverage and the potential benefits to the organization.

Family Over Everything

Mary’s first priority when it comes to sharing her powerful story is always to ensure she has full support from her son, Roy Herman. Herman, 40, said that he didn’t care about his name or other information being used. Furthermore, her husband Bill Metz encouraged her to share the story because he felt it was an emotionally healthy thing to do.

For the safety of Mary and her family, even though her abuser doesn’t have access to her, that doesn’t mean that other people in the community couldn’t have access to her or her family—so it could put them at risk potentially.

The Coordinating Conduit

Although it was Mary’s decision to have her story published, putting information about The Willow in the article raises another slew of issues at hand including: potential for women at the shelter to feel exploited, furthered stereotyping victims of domestic violence and an overall misrepresentation of Mary and, consequently, The Willow.

Becca is always a conduit for anything involving the media or public relations. After hearing Metz’s Survivor Story training sessions, Becca asked if she would be interested in speaking with Sara Patterson from Channel 6. Mary took some time to think about it. “[Becca] is always very clear about the decision being my own,” Mary said. “There is no pressure from the Willow to get any stories out there for publicity reasons.”

Relive it or leave it?

As many times as she’d been asked to tell her story in the past, Mary found herself in the same predicament, at odds with herself, each time. “How much do I care about this movement versus how much am I willing to put myself out there–whether or not it brings back that pain?” Metz said. “The more I share, the more I remember.”

With the story approved by the agency’s management team, and a deadline for Channel 6 approaching rapidly, Sara’s story rested in the outcome of Mary’s pondering. From the obvious issue of being portrayed as a stereotype to the underlying factor of her son’s feelings towards his mother tearing apart the name of his father, Mary had a lot of factors to weigh.

“Do I want to go through this?” Mary asked herself. “Because every time I tell my story I have to relive it.”

Let it out and let it go

Every opportunity Mary has to share her story she takes, unless she knows the request is out of her comfort zone.  “There are times when I have given a presentation and I have gone home and would sometimes just sob because it was just another whole layer,” Mary said. “It pisses me off that the memories of the abuse still hurt.”

By deciding to share this story, even though it was painful, it definitely brought on a sense of freedom in Mary’s life. “The more I tell it the easier it is,” Mary said. It has become less emotional and more factual the more she has shared her story.

“The only reason I decided to volunteer with The Willow was to help other women in whatever small way that I could,” Mary said. When it comes to the media, as long as she knows that her story, herself, and The Willow are not going to be exploited, then she is happy to share to her story. “I don’t want one more woman to have to go through that, and if there’s anything I can say to help them to make a decision to leave; I’d say it was worth it,” Mary said.

Finding balance

Aristotle’s philosophy of the golden mean represents the balance between extremes. While an obvious paradigm at hand for Mary was self versus community, the two extremes at hand are also similar: complete privatization versus utter self-exposure.

Had I been asked for advice in the matter, an explanation of the two extremes and a plan for finding middle ground would have been provided to her. The first extreme of absolute privacy would indeed secure any potential misrepresentations, but would also be a step backwards in the way of personal progress for Mary.

As sharing her story has been a large part of her healing process, completely hiding it from the world again would only be an act of regression. The ladder extreme of complete exposure is undoubtedly how Mary feels any time her story is available to the public.

However, this exposure represents the potential for Mary to spill her every memory, feeling and thought with the public. In finding balance between these two extremes, I would advise Mary to be self-aware of what she is comfortable with the public knowing versus what she isn’t.

I would also strain the importance of being clear with the journalist about what is and is not on-the-record. Most importantly, because it is her story, and hers alone, I would encourage her to share whatever information in whatever way best helps her heal and represent both herself and all women struggling with domestic violence.


Mary and The Willow did allow the news station to do a story about her experiences. However, for this case study the actual name of the local station, journalist and article were desired confidential, and have consequently been changed. Any reference to Channel 6 or the fictitious name ‘Sara Patterson’ is for the purpose of telling the story, and has no actual affiliation with the news station or any persons who may share this ‘character’s’ name.

The final outcome of the feature footage was quite voyeuristic. “The journalist’s questions focused mostly on what he physically did to me, which presents an uneducated perspective,” Mary said. On top of a slightly stereotypical portrayal, the length of the interview wasn’t extensive enough for the topic at hand.

“It took a situation which is very personal and meaningful and tried to make it something much more broad and vast.” Although Mary was not delighted with the outcomes of this particular coverage, she has since and will continue to do other interviews, proceeding with caution and head held high.

Click to visit The Willow's website

Click to visit The Willow DV Center’s website

Respect for Women on the Cycle of Abuse: Copywrited in 2008 by Jill Cory & Karen McAndless-Davis

This graphic shows examples of the cycle of abuse. It was created for and is used by the Respect for Women Organization

This graphic shows examples of the cycle of abuse. It was created for and is used by the Respect for Women Organization.

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Respect for Women’s Logo–Click to visit the organization’s website.


KU Researchers Use Grant to Help Families Affected by Substance Abuse

In other News: Ways to give back and to your family at the same time, and Newark’s Mayor Cory Booker takes up the food stamp diet.

  • The KU School of Social Welfare received $5.75 million in two funding grants from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Kiddos says researchers in the school will focus the awarded grants towards reuniting parents and children affected by substance abuse in this article.
  • Gift cards are often a simple way to do some holiday shopping. Instead of purchasing a retail gift card, Giving Better suggests purchasing a Giving Card. Redeemed Giving Cards benefit non-profit organizations across the country. If you are interested in learning more or purchasing one, read more in this article.
  • Newark, N.J. Mayor Cory Booker challenged himself and Twitter followers to follow a food stamp diet in response to recent disdain towards food stamps. Booker’s goal in the experiment is “for us to grow in compassion and understanding,” says the Nonprofit Quarterly in the following article.

Examining Effects of Economic Abuse in Domestic Violence

In a comfy, blue sweater, jeans, sneakers and a pair of thin-rimmed glasses resting between her misty eyes, Mary Metz’s appearance seems simple, but the small Chinese symbol tattooed on her left wrist reveals one of many scars acquired during her 18-year battle with a domestically violent marriage.

Metz escaped, survived domestic violence and now uses her skills as a Certified Public Accountant to volunteer for The Willow Domestic Violence Center in Lawrence.

Survivors face challenges to recuperate from trauma, overcome victim mentality and build a new life. Although 15 years removed from her abuser, 60-years-old, and happily remarried, Metz said the end of her abusive relationship was the start of a long, healing process.

“Recovering from abuse isn’t just a journey. It’s a marathon,” Metz said.

Financial abuse is commonly used as a form of power and control by abusers. This not only creates a major barrier for victims to leave, but also causes long-term financial costs for survivors. The consequences experienced during and after her abuse show Metz is no exception.

Economic abuse is defined as, “preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an allowance, taking her money and not letting her know about or have access to family income,” according to the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence. Refer to the timeline below for more information on NCDSV and other preventive programs, related legislature and general history of domestic violence within society.

At 18, Metz married her late husband right after high school. Finances were under her abuser’s control from the beginning.

“I didn’t interpret it as abuse because it was common at that time that the man took care of finances for the family,” Metz said.

Metz’s abuser felt justified to be the sole decision-maker because he was their source of income. Metz complied with her husband’s demand to gain his approval before spending money, but saw work as an opportunity to gain some sort of say in financial decisions.

“I assumed if I made money, I would be making some of the decisions too,” Metz said. “But of course that didn’t happen.”

Metz graduated college in 1986 and her first job paid $18,000 a year. Three years later her annual salary was $24,000. She consistently put money into the bank account, yet continued to give him her paycheck each month.

“The reason I still felt I wasn’t financially able to leave was primarily because he constantly told me I would never make it on my own,” Metz said. “He said that to me so much, I began to believe it.”

Economic abuse is arguably the strongest barrier for women trying to leave abusive relationships, Metz said. Near the end of their marriage, her husband emptied the bank account.

“I think he pulled money out before I left him because I was expressing to him that if things didn’t change I would leave him. I don’t know why, but part of me had trusted him to take care of me.”

When Metz ultimately decided to divorce her husband, she did not have the means to support both herself and her son.

“Without my grandparent’s assistance with paying for my divorce, I don’t know what I would have done,” Metz said.

With family support, Metz was lucky enough to rebuild her life. For most women in domestic violent relationships, money is the overriding issue of why they stay with or return to abusers.

“It’s the biggest barrier to leaving,” Director of Volunteer Services at WDVC, Becca Burns, said. “Without money you can’t get an apartment. You can’t feed your children. You can’t live your own life with your own choices without money.”

Being financially independent is important for every woman. Whether in an abusive relationship or not, women should know where family money is coming from and where it’s going.

“That’s just part of a mature and equal partnership,” Executive Director at WDVC, Joan Schultz, said.

The Willow works with women in the shelter to create resumes, find job opportunities, build self-esteem, recognize the barrier, and form steps to eliminate it.

“Maybe you can only eliminate one brick at a time, but that’s one more brick to self-sufficiency,” Schultz said.

Metz spent her first 36 years of life either under her parents’ roof or under her abuser’s control. Until the divorce, she never had the responsibilities of an adult. Like many women struggling to break the barrier of economic abuse, Metz had no choice but to build her own sense of sufficiency from scratch.

“In retrospect, it wasn’t all bad because, for the first time, I decided and had control over who I was,” Metz said. “I’ve been told people think I’m brave. When I look back, I was brave. And I still am.”

Domestic Violence Timeline:

The outlook and amnesty for domestic violence and sexual assault in has continuously changed with time. The timeline below is based on information provided by the Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence, and covers significant events regarding the evolution of domestic abuse within society. Click the image to enlarge.

Other sources:
1. Amnesty International
2. National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
3. National Domestic Violence Hotline
4. Pearson Education
5. Spruce Run
6. Washington State Department of Labor and Industries


The Lawrence Public Library Reaches Out to KU Students

Each student at the University has his or her own, unique way of studying. As midterms and finals arrive, students face the same question: Where should I study? With five campus libraries, there are plenty of resources to choose from.

“It would be nice to have the resources of a library without having to go to campus libraries, especially during vital times such as finals,” Cassie Jones, junior, said. “It’s overcrowded with students, and unreliable with Internet access from overloaded servers.”

 KU libraries aren’t the only facility to provide one-on-one assistance, conducive study environments and overall willingness to help students.

“We don’t have the same resources as KU, but you can tap into the catalog with your KU card and our staff is ready, willing and able to help with many questions,” said Director of the Lawrence Public Library, Brad Allen.

The Lawrence Public Library reaches students at the University through social networks, pooled community resources and collaboration with KU.

“I’ve been spending a lot of time out in the community getting to know the people in the town, and what they want from their library,” Allen said. “I’ve also been up on campus a lot collaborating more with KU.”

The facility currently works with the Honors Program, First Year Experience Program and the KU libraries to give students experiences outside of campus life, feel more involved in the community and continue to improve this resourceful study area.

“We’ve been working with the Honors Program to let people know the opportunities we have so they can pass those on to students,” Allen said. “In the six months that I’ve been here, we’ve already got new volunteers from the Honors Program; that’s been a great partnership already.”

The LPL facility itself provides a multitude of resources for students studying during midterms and finals, says Marketing Director Susan Brown. 

“I think there’s a bunch of things that would appeal to KU students,” Brown said. “The first is our space; we have lots of tables to study at, meeting room space on the lower level, a gallery, and an auditorium free for public use.”

The facility also has free Wi-Fi connection, wireless printing, regular printing, and live-chat online with librarians during open hours. Social networking has become important to all organizations, and the LPL is no exception.

“Our social media is a great way to get a feel for what we do,” Brown said. “Following us on Twitter or Facebook is a great way to see what’s going on in the library or the town in general.”

Along with services offered at LPL, one of the facility’s main goals is to provide a productive learning environment for students.

“We’re working towards this library being a place students can collaborate more, and just have some quiet places to study,” Brown said. “Especially during the evening, we have lots of quiet space for groups or studying alone.” “Plus, there isn’t that tremendous mid-term impact the librarians experience on campus.”

During her first years of college, Jones tried studying at many campus locations including: the Underground, the Union, Watson Library and Anschutz Library. It was a good opportunity for me to discover what kind of learner I am, says Jones.

“In high school I loved studying at public libraries and thought I’d give campus libraries a shot too, but mostly it was full of talkative groups,” Jones said. “It was really distracting.”

Campus libraries include quiet zones, but Jones says even those areas lead to side tracking.

“The quiet zone is honestly a joke because even if you’re in it, you still have people that are disrupting you,” Jones said. “It’s like a social zone, but it’s a library.”

Although she now studies at home, the reliable Wi-Fi connection, smaller crowds and online resources provided by LPL appeal to Jones’ ideal study atmosphere.

“A productive study environment for me entails a quiet, secluded area, where I can sit down, get in the zone and get stuff done,” Jones said. “As well as being private, I need consistent Internet access because everything is online nowadays.” “I would definitely study at the Lawrence Public Library because it offers the environment that allows me to focus.”

Comparing College Student Study Habits at the University

There are countless study environments for college students to choose from. Two KU students explain the study habits they personally find the most productive and why.


TERRAN SMITH: From study groups at Anschutz to studying alone at home, each student has a different way of learning that is best for them. Junior in visual arts, Cassie Jones, tried studying at various campus locations, but realized that they weren’t the most constructive environment for her.

MS. CASSIE JONES: I like studying in my room because it’s private, I can close myself off from distractions. I can kind of create my own stable study environment.”

SMITH: For other students, studying at home is a recipe for procrastination. Junior in English and senior in History, Marcus Puga, finds his apartment counterproductive for focusing, and explains why he chooses to study at Anschutz library.

MR. MARCUS PUGA: It’s a different environment than my apartment. When I’m there it’s just like I’m home—can’t really study.

SMITH: Puga says along with the helpful environment of Anschutz and other campus libraries, a sense of student community also adds to his reasons for studying there.

MR. PUGA: It’s nice to be on campus and study and realize that this is what you’re going to school for.

SMITH: Every student has a different way of studying and learning effectively. Whether that be at the campus libraries or at home, Jones says it’s something that each college student must figure out on their own.

JONES: I think it’s, it’s part of finding whatever you’re comfortable with.

SMITH: This is Terran Smith reporting for Lawrence Non-Profits


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Breaking Barriers of Domestic Violence Betters Substance Abuse Treatment for Survivors

Substance abuse often creates numerous, long-term barriers and negative effects for survivors of domestic violence.

Continued education of staff and volunteers is an important value of The Willow. The Quarterly Meeting on Saturday taught volunteers how to help survivors file Protection From Abuse forms.

“It increases their vulnerability in terms of the power that the partner tries to wield over them, and in terms of their exposure to trauma,” said Becca Burns, the director of volunteer services for The Willow Domestic Violence Center. “It creates additional barriers that survivors face when trying to access services.”

Jennifer Guthrie, former First Step Program Manager and advocate for The Willow, noticed a correlation and began to research the link between addiction and domestic violence last year.

“I started finding a lot of information that said even though advocates and researchers alike know there is a strong connection between the two, many agencies do not work together,” Guthrie said. “I talked to the directors at The Willow, First Step at Lakeview and Ga Du Gi SafeCenter, They all agreed that we should collaborate and be more involved with each other.”

The Willow provides shelter, support and rehabilitation for survivors of both domestic violence and sexual assault. First Step is DCCCA’s newest women’s treatment facility for substance abuse. Ga Du Gi provides programs to help all people affected by sexual violence.

The three agencies signed a contract in January to work together and provide a web of resources for survivors of domestic violence who also struggle with substance abuse.

Collaboration with substance abuse treatment experts in the community is essential so that individuals can receive professional care for their victimization and correlating conditions simultaneously,” according to the Office for Victims of Crime.

There are a variety of ways domestic violence contributes to substance abuse. Some women at First Step feel they turned to substances in order to cope with the domestic violence, said Guthrie.

“It seemed to be a way of avoiding the trauma, pain and hurt,” Guthrie said. “Sometimes they were introduced to the substance by the abuser as well, and then the abuser can use that as a form of control.”

To gain control, abusers often:

  • threaten to withhold the substance
  • use the substance as an excuse for their own behavior and
  • minimize the situation because of the victim’s drug use.

“Research indicates that victims who abuse drugs and/or alcohol may be at a higher risk for further victimization, causing a cycle of repeat violence that, without intervention, becomes increasingly destructive,” according to the Office for Victims of Crime.

“It often times does create a dependency if the victim equates access to the drug to the abuser. That tends to perpetuate the cycle,” said Teen Dating Violence Prevention Coordinator, Dani Onions.

“Sometimes the woman has children, and even though she wants to divorce the abuser, the woman is worried that the abuser will use her drug addiction against her,” Onions said.

The organizations are working together to eliminate as many barriers as possible for domestic violence survivors.

“We are one of the more progressive shelters in terms of substance abuse,” Onions said. “We see that if a victim has a drug abuse problem, we don’t want it to be a barrier to her getting safety or shelter.”

Along with streamlining survivors through First Step and Ga Du Gi, The Willow also recently created a Health and Wellness group.

“Everyone here is really excited about that because it’s the first time that we’ve introduced healthy living, stepping away from abusing drugs and moving more towards overall physical and mental health,” Onions said.

The organizations strive to remove as many hurdles for survivors as possible through well-rounded services.

“It can be pretty intense because sometimes the honeymoon stage gets involved, and because the abusers sometimes visit during treatment,” Guthrie said. “Hopefully talking about domestic violence will help give more holistic care to the women we serve.”

Through shared knowledge, both domestic violence and substance abuse treatment providers can better understand the complexity of the issue, better coordinate community response and, most importantly, better serve clients.

“I’d like to let survivors know that we as three agencies are committed to providing more comprehensive services that address multiple needs in multiple ways,” Burns said.

Becca Burns and Jennifer Guthrie discuss how abusers can use substance abuse to control their partners in domestically violent relationships. Use the Mental Health System Power and Control Wheel and the transcript below as a reference.


MS. JENNIFER GUTHRIE: I think the whole reason there’s a separate power and control model for women’s substance abuse is that it mirrors the traditional power and control wheel, but also expands on it. So for emotional abuse this would include, and this is straight from the wheel: putting her down and making her feel guilty for her past drug use, and then physical abuse, physically abusing her for getting high, not getting high, using isolation. And this one can be preventing from going to NA meetings, AA meetings, or belittling her for saying it’s ridiculous that she is upset about using drugs. It’s not a big deal whatever: minimizing, denying and blaming, saying she caused the abuse with her drug use.

MS. BECCA BURNS: This wouldn’t haven needed to happen, but because you got high, look what you made me do. I can’t handle you when you’re drinking; so, this is what you’ve forced me to do.

MS. GUTHRIE: Right, and then so not only her behavior but also their own. Like: “I’m so sorry baby I only did that because I was high.”

MS. BURNS: And oh, using sexual abuse. So, forms of sexual abuse that are common within women’s substance abuse in terms of an abusive relationship is forcing her to prostitute for drugs or money.

MS. GUTHRIE: Or even, like, get on this website and do this and it can kind of reach into like human trafficking almost with that.

MS. BURNS: Oh yeah, absolutely. Encouraging drug use and drug dependence. So just getting her introduced to those things.

MS. GUTHRIE: Yeah, and that’s something I know with the lot of the survivors I work with that tends to happen is, ‘You know I didn’t even start using substances until I met him. And in the beginning it was fun and it was just something recreational.’ And then they end up getting hooked and then it’s used as a means for control.

MS. BURNS: ‘He taught me how to shoot up, how to snort things as opposed to smoking.’

MS GUTHRIE: Oh, and then finally economic abuse. So making her sell drugs, and then using threats, so threatening to hurt her if she does not use drugs, if she does use drugs–that sort of thing.

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Philanthropy Journal Names New Managing Editor

Plus News about the Common Ground Petition and Non-profit Networking

  • Jill Warren Lucas was appointed Managing Editor for the Philanthropy Journal. Effective Oct. 29, Lucas will oversee the current goals of the program, including a “to more effectively build the capacity of nonprofits and to foster a higher level of engagement between partners and stakeholders, both within the online publication and through a robust social media presence,” said PJ Staff. Read the PJ Staff Report for more about the integrative goals of the Lucas and the organization.
  • Blackbaud announced in Aug. that it will stop support for Convio’s Common Ground in May 2014, says the Nonprofit Times. The organization provides fundraising and donor management software solutions for over 400 non-profits. Elizabeth Davis, chief operating officer of The Miracle Foundation, started a petition on to help save the foundation she’s worked with for over 18 months. For more about this topic, read the article here.
  • E-mail lists can only take an organization so far, and to get the word out they need to expand their connections, says Fundraising IP. The article provides tips for non-profits to develop solid local media relations. Interested in expanding your non-profit’s social networking? Read the seven steps here.
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